Looking for Love


For the purpose of full disclosure, and in the presence of my fellow bloggers; I am stating for the record, that in a little over a week, I will be celebrating twenty-three years of wedded bliss, to the most wonderful woman in the world. I also, hereby swear, that I will not now, or at any time in the future, procure the services of any business dealing with online dating. “Honey, I said it. Can I take my hand off the Bible, now?

I was watching TV last night, and it seems like every week there’s a new dating service being advertised. Some sites claim they base finding a partner for you, on specific compatibility matrixes, while others help you find your soul mate through lengthy personality testing or behavioral matchmaking systems. I remember when things were so much simpler. You found that special someone in one of two ways. The first was, you asked someone out for coffee, you went on a date, and subsequently a few more, before you met their parents. You then dated some more, proposed, got married, and lived happily ever after. At least, that was how it went for me. The second way involved going to a bar or nightclub, having a few drinks, and hooking up in a dark, hot, smoke-filled room, with music so loud you both needed sign language skills just to say hello? Those were your only two choices.

I noticed something else, while watching the commercials for such sites such as eHarmony and Match.com. Where are all the facially challenged, husky, big-boned, and slightly imperfect people, who look like me, and may be looking for that special someone? Every couple I saw was either beautiful or handsome, extremely fit, had a full head of magnificent hair, and perfect teeth. I don’t think the dating sites commercial’s, truly represent the typical single person. Heck, I was at Walmart yesterday, and people were lucky to have all their teeth, let along thirty-two pearly whites! I guess, I should be glad I’m happily married. I think, if I had to depend on internet dating services to find someone to share my life with, I might just end up with one long, lonely existence.

Here’s something to think about. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but almost all the couples shown, as successful matches on dating sites – look like each other. To be honest; it kind of freaks me out. I once read an interesting study, in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. It said that human beings love themselves, and will search for a mate who looks like either them or their parents. I think dating services are using complicated facial recognition technology to match people with someone who looks just like them! I don’t know what scares me more; the fact that modern technology is determining who people spend the rest of their lives with, or that somewhere, there’s a Patrick Dykie Doppelganger of the opposite sex. Walking the streets in a nearby city could be my identical twin; possibly attired, in a stunning, but elegant ensemble of a silk halter top, a revealing leather mini-skirt, flesh-tone nylons, and ruby red, and quite fetching high heels.

Do you know there are dating sites for particular ethnicities, and religious beliefs? I saw one called, Blackpeoplemeet.com for African American’s, and another for Jewish singles called, Jdate.com. Both sites had extremely beautiful, intelligent, sexy women on them looking for that special someone. I was wondering about something. I’m so pale, I glow in the dark, and I’m Catholic. Would it be a deal breaker, if someone like me, signed up on one of these sites?

Have you heard about a dating site called Christian Mingle? It even has a motto which says, “Find God’s match for you.” I think it’s a great idea for people who have certain beliefs, and want to meet like-minded individuals with similar interests, values and ideals, for a long-lasting relationship. I know the dating site has good intentions. I’m also sure they’ve helped a lot of good and decent people find love in a large, often cruel, and sometimes lonely world. On the surface it sounds pretty good; but does anyone, including a dating site, really know what God’s thinking? Do any of the Christian people who come to this site, say to themselves, “Wow, this is great. God herself, is going to help me find that special someone.” Well, what if God does decide to intervene, is having a bad day, or worse yet, she’s read my simple observations of everyday life blog. What if she figures, I have a good sense of humor, and then decides my perfect match is a nice, fun-loving, ninety-two-year-old woman named Edna, who enjoys pulling her teeth out at bingo night at the retirement home, to liven things up.

I even saw a dating service called, “Cougar Life.” On the site in big, bold letters it says, “Date a cougar, on the largest cougar dating site.” I don’t know about you, but that sounds pretty scary to me. I guess my mom was right. There are a lot of online predators out there. I did some research, and learned that in the world of modern dating, a cougar is an older, intelligent, successful woman, with abundant energy, who is looking for someone with the vitality of youth, to satisfy her psychological as well as physical needs.

I guess, I don’t have to worry about any cougars hitting on me. In my case, she’d have to be at least eighty, and even then, I probably couldn’t keep up with her. I have just one warning, for all you single young men who might be intrigued by the idea of a lovely, strong, older woman with a lot to offer as a long-term companion. Make sure you get the right kind of cougar. Years ago, during my wild days as a young man, I happened to be at a bar in the Canadian Rockies. The sign out front had said “Cougar Night,” and I figured it would be a good time. I’m not too sure about a good time, but I can tell you this – I got tore up pretty good!

I think I’ll start my own internet dating site. I won’t need it myself, but I think my personal experiences, unique perspectives on life, and my own successful search for a life partner, may be of help to others. It will also be, a more realistic way for average people to meet, and find love. I’ll call it, “Alittlemesseduplookingbuthasagoodheart.com”

26 Replies to “Looking for Love”

  1. Meeting someone over the internet isn’t such a bad idea. I quite like the idea of getting to know someone a bit on-line before getting stuck with them for a whole evening on a date. It would work if they all had to blog their thoughts for a few years. Then you would have a good overview of the other person [wink].


    1. Thanks for another great comment. I agree about the blogging. There’s not much that we hide as bloggers. You would really get to know the person. The only problem is people like me. After reading my blog, you might know TOO much!


  2. I enjoyed the part of you having your hand on the Bible! My ex/husband met his wife through E-harmony and he seems happy. Another lady I met found her husband on OK-Cupid. And one more friend is dating a Professor for 3 years whom she met on Match. So, these dating sites can work. Like my mother said, “What would be the difference from meeting someone at a Art Gallery opening, charity function, etc. where you know nothing about that person?” Hum… she has a point.


    1. Thanks for stopping by. Do me a favor. The next time you see your ex and friends; take a good look at them. Do they look alike? I still believe they are using facial recognition technology. They might not even check compatibility, but put look-a-likes together.


      1. There are now three of you mentioning farmers.com. I’ll have to check it out. I wonder if they ask you if you like the smell of manure, like to snuggle with pigs, can milk a cow, and can heft 50 pound bales of hay?

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  3. Oh god. Pleeeeeease excuse the typos and autocorrect nonsense…too early and I’m tired!!!!!!
    I hope your fluent in autocorrect otherwise half of that won’t make sense. Good grief


  4. Eeeeeeexcellent post. I soaked up every word because although I’m RELATIVELY young (mid 30s ) and married (we met randomly on the beach front. …awwww! ) I feel 8 should be more open minded than I am about online dating . This may turn into one of my longer comments so settle in 😂
    I understand that people find it easier (? ) to use these sites with their complicated (dubious ) algorithms but I wonder if there is something else going on here. Having people turn to the ‘artificial ‘ for posoblybthe most important connection in their lives, only makes me think that THIS TOO is now being controlled. The feeling of freedom, The addictive and sustaining and motivational adrebaline rush of meeting someone by happenstance and falling in love is now being doctored, monitored and controlled. It smacks of the slowly but sure path to accepting the inevitable world of AI that we are clearly heading towards, through the consistent indoctrination of “computer good,really people/real world BAD!”
    I could go on but it’s even a bit too early for me to delve into the conspiracy theory we are unfortunately living in!
    I know a couple who seem happy to have met online, married , kids etc. I know own any three couple wherein the woman is clearly a manipulator and an opportunist and the man is blissfully ignorant of that fact . So it’s a mixed bag. But the underlying essence of this whole online dating concept is: “Tell us literally EVERYTHING about yourself and we’ll find you True Love (or “twu blave” if you’re a Princess Bride fan) Don’t worry your little controlled and brainwashed head about it!Yay, computers and the Internet! Hurrah!”

    So. That’s my “humble” opinion!
    Thanks for giving us such about new interesting read. I needed to get my brain mechanism going today!
    All the best.
    P.S your website sounds brilliant. It would work 100%- no joke! !!

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      1. Oh thanks! I’m glad you liked my conspiracy ramblings!take care and thanks again for a fab post 😊


  5. Wow Robert, I didn’t know you were a cross dresser, but I suppose there’s a dating service for them too. I wonder if they have a Tradies dating service, there seems to be more and more girls joining our ranks. Off to have my shower now, just need to warm myself up a bit, It’s snowing in the hills here again, on the 8th day of spring… brrrrr….


    1. Thanks once again Ivors for the visit. We’re heading into fall here, and it’s in the 60’s. As for cross dressing. I’m not into it, but my female look alike seems to dress very sexy. Imagine the horror, Ivor, if I run into her, and think she’s hot. As for a site for tradies – great idea. I was a pipe fitter in my far away past, and I always found hard-working women in the trades very attractive.

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